Loving yourself can be difficult, I get it. You lose sight of your goals; you’re stuck in search of your passion; you simply can’t tell what the value you bring into the world is. I’ve been there, and I am not ashamed to admit it. Even the most positive and self-aware people you can think of have surely gone through the same at some point.
And hey, you there. It’s alright if you feel worthless, if you don’t know which path to go. It’s alright if your life, right now, is not as exciting or successful as you’ve imagined. You’re just starting with life—you are in your twenties and that’s the time to learn. It’s the time to accept that sometimes you can’t control everything and there will be confusion and disappointment on your way. Not having your life figured out is perfectly okay.
What is important is to keep going. Keep learning. Start figuring out your life and your passion—bit by bit. Get to know yourself because knowing who you are and what you want is the key to happiness. Get to love yourself because it doesn’t matter where you are, what you’re doing or who you’re doing it with if your heart is not filled with love—for who you are.
I put together a list of five ways to love yourself a little more and I really, really hope you’ll find it just as helpful as I did. Remember, don’t be scared to try things out. Eventually, you will find what makes you feel good about yourself, and that’s what matters.
What are you grateful for?
Write a list of all the things, as tiny as they can be, that you feel grateful for. These are your simple pleasures that can help you go through the bad times; your reminder that there’s good in life and it is worth living. Do that every day.
What do you like about yourself?
There’s gotta be something you like—make it your focus and use it to your advantage. These are your positive traits, like humor or resilience. Think of it as your super power, or your worth. Respect who you are and don’t ever let people bring you down. Say it to yourself in the morning, in the mirror. Expand your list with one new item every morning.
What do you have to accept?
No human being is or will ever be perfect—because perfection is subjective. Your flaws are what makes you a human, what makes you unique. Whether it is your body shape, or a physical disability, or something about your personality, if you can’t change it, you have to learn to live with it. If you don’t want to change it, then you have to accept that you’ll have to find people who accept it, too. If you want a nomad life, full of adventure, you have to accept that your sense of belonging might be different.
What you should forgive yourself about?
Very often, we hold onto the mistakes we’ve done, the love we’ve never received, or the pain we’ve caused. Let it all go. You can’t bring this burden forever—the past is gone and you can’t change it. You need to forgive yourself for all you’ve done in order to live freely.
Who do you want to be?
And how can you get there? This question has to get you thinking about everything you want to change about yourself and your life. That is your vision of your better self. Dream about it, without limits. Then go figure out what you can do, right now, to achieve it.
And remember, you can do EVERYTHING.
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